"You can't change your genes, but you can change your jeans"
Discovering the importance of appearance in sexual attraction
Nobody will argue the fact that some people are born with good looks while others aren't as lucky. Physical appearance, afterall, is the first thing someone will notice about you - and as mentioned, some do have a decided advantage. This is not the be all and end all of attraction, however - it takes alot more than looks to settle down with someone. But why not be good-looking anyway? It's definitely not going to hurt your chances, that's for sure!
Tell me, what's the first thing that comes to mind when I say that someone is attractive? Most of the guys are going to decide on something to do with body type and most girls are going to look more into the facial characteristics of someone. That's just the way it is. Either way, we are thinking about how someone looks - how they appear to you. But now take a second and close your eyes. Think about someone you find sexually attractive. Picture them in your mind just how you imagine them.
Now picture them in baggy, dirty, mangled clothes (and no make-up) and stinking of horrible body odour. Not so attractive now, are they?
The point is, attractiveness can always be manipulated, no matter who you are!
I am a firm believer in change, as I am someone who has benefitted through change. If someone really wants to try and become more attractive, they will. It's really that easy. All it takes is the drive and the rest will follow. You may have to update your wardrobe and try a new hairstyle but even the most minor of changes can make the HUGEST differences. All the women out there know what I'm talking about - just the slightest touch of eye shadow or a small change in lip gloss color can make you seem like an almost entirely different person! And guys - I know you like your clothes just the way they are, but when you wear the same stuff everyday it gets kind of, well, boring. So switch your style up a little, don't be afraid to get trendy and see what great things come!
Now do you understand what I mean when I say "You can't change your genes, but you can change your jeans"?
Again, the key here is change. As long as you're willing to step out a little from your "comfort zone" the rewards can be astonishing...just think about 2 equally qualified job applicants. Doesn't it seem like the more attractive one always seems to get the job?
Ask yourself this - are attractive people favored? When applying for a job, or starting a conversation with someone, or lining up to get into your favorite club, doesn't it seem like those who are attractive have an advantage? And what about the relationship you've noticed between good-looking men or beautiful women and marriage? Doesn't it seem like the attractive ones always seem to be scooped up right away? So ask yourself again. Are attractive people favored? OF COURSE THEY ARE!!!
Pretty much everybody out there has the potential to be physically attractive. Granted it may come alot easier to some than others but the potential is there. Hairstyles, facial hair (guys only, please!), eyeglasses and of course clothes are all huge variables that can be exploited to maximize your attractiveness. Below is a list of some tips you should consider next time you go out:
1. If you're wearing jeans, make sure they're not too baggy and not too tight...and leave the black or white colored jeans at home!
2. Invest in a couple pairs of nice shoes. Shoes are one of the first thing women notice, and like it or not, judge you by.
3. Women love guys wearing dress shirts. A good-fitting crisp/clean black or white dress shirt will do wonders, guaranteed.
1. If you always wear your hair down, wear it up for a change. Exposing your neck has an erotic effect on men if you don't do it all the time.
2. Try a glossier lipstick if you're used to more of a matte finish. The glossy appearance conveys an image of playfullness and fun - good things!
3. Don't be afraid to show off stuff like a new toenail colour (in the summer) or a new piercing. This shows you take care of yourself and live for the moment.
Trying to convince everybody what is and what is not attractive is an impossible challenge - there are too many different tastes and opinions out there to come to a set decision. There are many things that most can agree on in terms of what is attractive, however. If you want to know what is most sexually appealing to the opposite sex so you can be sure you're looking as attractive as can be, just experiment. Be social with your friends - see what they think about your latest jacket or hairstyle. Keep an open ear for compliments and criticism as well - it's the only way you're going to learn. Most importantly, be confident with yourself. This means being comfortable in your own skin, and for that matter, your own clothes. (We talk in more detail about how confidence and personality are the most important factors of attraction in our personality page.) This may translate to making small changes at different times so you can adapt and assess the changes. All the better! Don't be afraid to take things slow and one step at a time. That way you'll be able to pinpoint exactly what small change makes the biggest difference when you become the object of everyone's desire!
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