Dear Friend,
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A social life is never a simple thing. Dating is even less simple. Here you WILL discover how easy it really is to find, ask out and succeed with that special someone, whether it's that beautiful exotic girl you keep running into at the coffee shop on the corner or that beautiful hunk that lives next door... whether they just caught your eye at a party or they've been on your mind for months - even years - and you haven't had the courage to ask them out, ONLY HERE will you learn how to take advantage and succeed with what you want.
GUYS - Think about that gorgeous girl you thought you had a chance with but never did anything about. Want to know the best possible way to attract her straight to you?
GIRLS - Think about that one guy you were so in to but never worked up enough courage to pursue anything. Want to know the best and easiest technique of how to attract a guy to you?
Imagine going through your entire life thinking about "that one that got away" - that guy or girl you always hoped there'd be a future with but you never took the chance to ask them out. What if I told you they felt the same way about you too? Think about how easy it would have been to just go up to them, say hi, and ask if they want to go for a coffee on the weekend? Of course, life isnt that simple - if it were, you wouldn't be here.
BUT WAIT, THERE IS GOOD NEWS - THIS WILL NEVER, EVER HAPPEN TO YOU AGAIN!!!Let's revisit the "one that got away" example we mentioned just above. Say you didnt know how they felt about you and you bumped into them again sometime down the road, and you still had feelings for them. Instead of just the usual chat, why not put yourself out there and see what happens: Think about how easy it would have been...
"HEY MR/MS X, I'D REALLY LIKE TO HANG OUT WITH YOU SOMETIME...WANT TO GRAB A COFFEE WITH ME ON THE WEEKEND?"
And their response:
"SURE, I'D LOVE TO!"
Yes, we've all made mistakes and not taken the chance. Why? Because we don't want to put our pride on the line. It's fear of rejection, a lack of confidence in ourselves...but what if you learned how to have that confidence in yourself so you'd never have to worry about this again?
Let's try and put this into perspective. You really like this person and desperately want to ask them out, but you're too afraid they will say no.
Situation A: You decide not to ask and spend WAY too much time thinking about what could have happened.
Situation B: You ask them out and they give you an answer. No matter what answer it is, at least you won't have to dwell on it forever, because YOU AT LEAST TRIED.
Don't you think you'd build confidence in yourself even if they said no? It may not make sense right away, but think about it a little. You put yourself out on the line and "rolled the dice". Think about how many people out there would not have even tried to begin with! Just asking them out puts you in a class separating you from most of the people out there who spend the rest of their lives wondering "WHAT IF?"
Think about it: you have little to lose and EVERYTHING to gain!!!
Read it over again. All you're asking is to go out for a coffee. You're not asking them out on a formal date - no dinner and a movie or anything like that. Just a plain, simple coffee. How intrusive can it be anyway? It's just a coffee! People go out for coffee all the time!
If you take a deeper look into the example you can point out so many positives it would be virtually impossible for them to say no!
1. You're telling them you'd like to hang out with them sometime - implying they are fun to be around
2. You're not being overly intrusive by asking them out for just a casual coffee
3. You're not saying way too much (that would make you seem overly desparate)
4. You're telling them you are absolutely confident enough in yourself to ask them thisRight now you're probably thinking "Great, that sounds simple enough, let's give it a shot". But the truth is it's actually not that simple. There are many other background factors that play a big role into the YES decision.
Think about it. You could be an attractive, well-built guy with a great smile but if your deodorant isn't working the way it should things are probably not going to go all that well.
OR, say you're a reasonably attractive girl with good fashion sense but when it comes down to having a conversation with an attractive guy you come out consistently flat.
OR, you're a super-popular guy with tons of friends but all the girls you're interested in seem to see you as just a friend, and you're so frustrated with this you don't know what to do.
OR....well, I think you're beginning to get the message. Point is, attaining your goal depends on a combination of things. DO NOT DESPAIR, however. The more you date the more you will perfect your habits. Yes, practice does indeed make perfect - and I realize you are here for precisely that reason - to date more - so read on and you'll learn exactly what you need to do to make sure this happens successfully!
Basically, it all comes down to attraction. You need to be sexually attractive. And that doesn't necessarily mean physically attractive...what it means is that you have to be someone that attracts people to you, much like magnets attract metals. Think of yourself as a magnet - you want to "pull" people to you. How do you do this? Just be social!
SHOW PEOPLE YOU HAVE A GREAT PERSONALITY - BE PASSIONATE! Everyone has that flair inside them, you just need the right trigger to bring it out!
Take music, for example. Maybe you're very passionate about Jazz or Blues. When you express passion about something YOUR SEXUAL ATTRACTIVENESS SKYROCKETS! You cannot be unattractive and passionate at the same time - its just not possible. When you're passionate about something and you show it you become a "sexual magnet!" It shows people there is alot more to you than meets the eye, and if you can relate that to their interests in some way you are GOLDEN!. And what's even better? FIND OUT WHAT THEY'RE PASSIONATE ABOUT, and talk about it! There is a definite relationship between attraction and mirroring speech so find out what they like and get them talking about it - by you talking about it!
To illustrate what I'm talking about, I'll give you a couple of different scenarios. Take a look at the different responses Steve gives:
Steve: "So Steph, what do you do for fun?"
Steph: "Well, during the summer I really like going hiking and camping."
Steve: "That's too bad. I'm not much of an outdoors kind of guy."
OR
Steve: "So Steph, what do you do for fun?"
Steph: "Well, during the summer I really like going hiking and camping."
Steve: "Really...I actually have never done any real hiking before since I don't get out of the city much, but I've always been looking for an excuse to get out in the mountains. I can only imagine what it would be like - where do you usually go?....(and so on)"
Be excited about their life! I can promise you just about every person is going to open themselves up and show a hundred times more interest in you if you play it like Steve in the 2nd scenario. It may seem like common sense at first but you would be surprised at how many people don't know and don't use this technique! But it's not something you can master right away - it takes learning and practice, so read on!
CONFIDENCE is absolutely huge. It's about always being able to answer "YES" to yourself when you ask the question "Should I pursue the attraction I have for this person?". It's true that beautiful women intimidate men and gorgeous men can intimidate women, but when you have confidence in yourself you feel excited - and NOT intimidated. Confidence also tells your partner you are comfortable in your own skin and in essence, you are happy with yourself. Naturally, people want to be happy and what could help more than to be with someone who already is happy?
Let's illustrate with another couple of examples. Compare Rachel's responses:
Rachel: "I work at a law firm downtown and actually just applied for a promotion."
Rich: "That sounds great! Do you think you'll get it?"
Rachel: "Probably not. Competition is too tough."
OR
Rachel: "I work at a law firm downtown and actually just applied for a promotion."
Rich: "That sounds great! Do you think you'll get it?"
Rachel: "It's not going to be easy but I'm motivated to do whatever I can to make sure I get it. Nobody else applying for it has half the determination I have anyway!"
So, tell me, how boring does Rachel seem in the first example? Even though she may be physically attractive, do you think Rich is going to want to have anything to do with her with that kind of attitude? OF COURSE NOT! She's pretty much telling him she's a dud!
What about the second example? Rachel just turned the excitement up a notch with a confident response, and of course Rich is much more interested in her...simple as that.
Don't be afraid to appear slightly on the cocky side! It gives you the edge that will keep your partner on their toes! Additionally, when you put yourself out there and give clues about your attraction toward the other person, it can actually help you have them become more attracted to you! Remember the last time you found out a guy or girl you never thought twice about had a thing for you? Remember what happened next? You began thinking about the possiblity, and all of a sudden you considered it, if not went through with it! What just happened there? Their expression of attraction toward you made YOU more attracted to THEM! Moral of the story? Don't be afraid to go out on a limb and test the waters...you never know what kind of impact it could have!
In that last few words I've provided you with some great tips you can use that will help you meet your goals - but I have barely even scratched the surface. Here I've provided you with some great information you can use in many dating situations, so PLEASE PRACTICE AND APPLY THESE TECHNIQUES as often as you can!
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